The early end to the Kardashian/Humphries
nuptials has focused unfortunate attention on the wedding gift arena. After only 72 days of marriage, most people
in the Western Hemisphere know that Kim Kardashian Humphries filed for
divorce. While various groups have
various views on why it happened, what many celebrity watchers are wondering is
“What happens to the gifts?”
This is an area that rarely gets talked
about because the couple’s focus is on their upcoming wedding. It is exciting and happy and busy and no one
thinks that his/her wedding will come unglued so quickly. Most couples talk about “forever and ever.” Unfortunately, that doesn’t come true for
some.
The rule of thumb has always been that
wedding gifts received for any wedding, which ends at or around six months must
be returned. (Emily Post) That clearly includes Kim K. Traditionally, it is also expected that any
gifts that have been used do not need to be returned. The exception is the monster diamond
engagement ring Kris gave Kim. She may
keep the ring since it was a gift from the groom to his bride.
What other guidelines exist to cover this
situation? The bride and groom should be
sending handwritten notes to each of their guests in which they thank the
individuals for attending their ceremony and letting them know that the
marriage is being dissolved. In the note
they need to reference the gift received and its disposition – either returned
to the giver or donated in their name to a special charity. If the gift was cash, it needs to be returned
to the giver.
One can only hope that the couple goes
about “uncoupling” in a quiet and dignified manner. No parties or celebrations should be held.
This doesn’t happen often, but as wedding
professionals we know how to advise the bride who finds herself in this
unfortunate situation.
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