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Marilyn Duncan Wiltshire; CWS(Certified Wedding Specialist), BA, dip Ed, is the owner and principal consultant of Triniweddings. She previously owned and managed P&S Rentals, a Party Rentals company which she sold at the end of 2013 to dedicate her time solely to weddings. She is an accomplished Special Events Planner and a member of Weddings Beautiful Worldwide, the International Special Events Society and the Association of Bridal Consultants. She has been responsible for the coordination and production of many successful local weddings and is associated with many of the country’s more prominent service providers.She also plans a great many “destination” weddings here in Trinidad and Tobago for brides who reside abroad. In addition to planning fabulous weddings she is a part time lecturer at the Lok Jack School of Business in the Event Management Program which is done in conjunction with the George Washington University in the United States. Marilyn recently acquired the license from Weddings Beautiful Worldwide to teach and confer the CWS and AWP designations to students throughout the Caribbean region.

Monday, 28 May 2012

WEDDING TIPS - I’m Happy – But Stressed





The good news?   You’re engaged.  The less wonderful news? You’re feeling the stress.

It is a happy time, but we know that stress can set in as you try to deal with the myriad of details that threaten to drown you.  You have decisions to make about the ceremony and reception locations, what to wear, attendants to select, whom to invite, what flowers, music and photographers to choose.  There are budget questions to solve.  All these issues can generate a case of “wedding jitters”.



To relieve your stress or at least make it manageable, we offer these key points.

  • If money issues generate the stress, take the time as a couple to determine your priorities.  List the items of most important to you both.  From a list of 10-20, select the top 5.  These five – listed in priority order – are the items on which you are less likely to compromise.  Then as you review your budget, you can “borrow” from the other items on your list to keep the budget in balance.  If you have your heart set on a particular gown, you can help pay for it by saving money on flowers or photography etc.
  • If the stress is coming from family, be clear about the source of the stress and firm about communicating your feelings.  Talk out the issues you see with your parents, friends and those involved.  Be gracious but firm about expressing views and concerns.  Don’t “stuff” the feelings so they end up hurting a relationship



  • If the stress is coming from the crush of events and the sense of being overwhelmed by everything you sense must be done, SHARE the responsibilities.  Hire a wedding planner, enlist the groom, ask parents to take over specific jobs.  Get yourself a wedding planning book (hard copy or on line version) and be faithful about entering plans made.  Follow its suggestions for organizing your projects.



  • Get enough sleep and take care of your health by eating well.  Make good use of your gym membership and exercise away the stress.



  • When it all seems too much, speak with our TriniWeddings certified and experienced consultants.  We can help you put it all in perspective and remind you of what is really important in this wedding you are planning.
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